🩵 1 in 4: Why Talking About Pregnancy Loss Matters — and How We Heal Together

Why do so many women stay silent about pregnancy loss?

We’ve been taught to hide our pain, to protect others from discomfort — even when we’re the ones hurting. But silence doesn’t protect anyone; it isolates us. Talking about pregnancy loss is how awareness grows, stigma fades, and healing truly begins — for all of us.

Finding My Voice Again

It’s taken me a long time to feel ready to write about this.Not because I didn’t want to share, but because it’s hard to talk about something that hurts this deeply. I’m one of the one-in-four women who have experienced pregnancy loss — four times. The last, ten months ago, was the most difficult one yet.

Recently, a friend told me she was newly pregnant. She said, “I’m not telling everyone yet, but I wanted to tell you.” Part of the reason she shared was that she knew about my loss. That conversation reminded me why it’s so important to talk about pregnancy loss — because when we share, we make it a little easier for others to do the same.

The Silence We Were Taught

For generations, women have been taught to stay quiet about their pain. We don’t want to “make others uncomfortable.” We apologise for our sadness.

We whisper our losses, or we don’t mention them at all.

That silence is learned. It’s something many of us were raised to believe — that emotions should be managed privately, that grief is something to move through quickly, and that other people’s comfort should come before our own truth. But silence doesn’t protect anyone; it isolates everyone. When one in four women experience pregnancy loss, keeping it invisible serves no one. Absolutely no one!

Why We Need to Talk About It

Talking about pregnancy loss isn’t about reliving pain. It’s about acknowledging what happened and giving it space. When we speak, we name the experience and take away its power to shame us. We invite compassion instead of pity, and connection instead of isolation. Every time someone says, “Me too,” the stigma weakens. Every shared story tells another woman: You’re not broken. You’re human.

Support That Actually Helps

Support doesn’t have to mean saying the perfect thing. It can be a message that says, “I’m thinking of you.”A pause before changing the subject.A friend who brings food instead of advice.

For women experiencing loss, professional guidance can also help — coaching, therapy, or small group circles that hold space without judgement.Healing isn’t linear, and you don’t have to do it alone.

Beyond MumMe: Building Spaces of Support

I created Beyond MumMe from the belief that women deserve real, compassionate support — not only during motherhood, but through every transition that reshapes who we are.

By speaking openly about pregnancy loss, we begin to rebuild that village — not the one that tells women to stay quiet, but the one that reminds them they’re already strong and worthy of care.

If You’ve Experienced Loss

You’re not alone. Your story matters, even if you’ve never told it aloud. When we stop apologising for our pain and start sharing it, we create a culture where compassion becomes normal.Pregnancy loss isn’t a private failure; it’s a shared reality.And the more we talk about it, the more we heal — together.